Shut Up and Act!

 

 

“Talk is CHEAP” is something my mentor used to tell me constantly. Actions have always spoken louder than words. In fact, if you think about it, the man generally feared is the one who metes out the judgement barely promised. He is the one who generally is considered deadly because his actions line up with his words.

 

When I was a child, I loved but feared my father. He wasn’t a man who spoke a lot. He would perhaps give a warning look or speak once in a calm voice if I was misbehaving. This was the total opposite of my mom who talked, threatened and warned a lot. My dad was the greater fear because he was the unknown force whose talk meant something.

When you do a lot of talking about your dreams and carry out no actions towards fulfilling them, you are like the little mongrel dog with a lot of noise and no bite. He will make a lot of noise when you approach his  gate but the moment you open it or raise your hand is the moment he takes off. Are you always just talking about your dreams? Where is the action towards fulfilling them? Do you run from or start to make excuses why you can’t take a presented opportunity? It is past time you move to the biting stage. The gates have been open, surely you don’t need God or anyone to push you through. You can reach you goals. It is time YOU STOP TALK THE TALK AND WALK THE TALK.image

XOXO
Chañel

A Ziplining Lesson

Recently, I went on a work trip. Part of the trip took us to Y.S. Falls where I tried 5 ziplines for the first time. Like any first experience of that active nature, I didn’t quite know how to feel but as the experience continued, I picked up a couple lessons on the way.

Before we could start, we were locked into the relevant gear including helmets. As we stood waiting for all our team members to be geared-up, we had a couple of persons who had done it already and they were the ones who tried to alleviate some of our fears. However, in talking, these were the ones who made facing the experience even more fearful.My level of fear was slowing vamping up as I stood listening. I realised then that whilst God has not given me a spirit of fear, fear could be found within the uncertainty of excelling at the unknown and from external factors like well-meaning individuals. At that point I stopped listening and told myself that I could do it.

The walk to the first zipline was long especially since I haven’t done any exercise in months. Again I found myself wavering as my lungs struggled for air and my knees protested and threatened to buckle. Just when I was about to give in to my wavering mind and protesting body, I reached the top and it was beautiful! From this experience, another lesson emerged. The hardest step to fulfilling your dream is the preparation stage to beginning. Sometimes everything will seem to be against you as you try to put things in place. You may even consider giving up but if you hold out, your destination (starting point) will be incredibly beautiful. With everything in place, you will be filled with an incredible pride and satisfaction as you stand on the brink of conquering the world.

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Relationship Security should be the New Rage

I had a conversation with one of my best friends the other day. During this conversation we touched briefly on the fact that while I was heading towards broke, he was at broke. When I heard, I had no qualms or reservations about offering my aid until he got paid. What struck me was his reply, “No man, I’m good. *Name of fiancée* has got me.”
You can just imagine my wide-eyed response. I was shocked! I found myself musing over that response for a few days and even now I am still shocked by it.

I have always said that I would never choose a partner on the basis of his wealth. In fact, I can honestly say that I find the idea of gold-digging quite distasteful. Having a partner who you know has you locked spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially, if needed or he/she wants to, should be the rage.

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A Contemplation Upon Ants – Move With Purpose

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It is often strange, the things you can be inspired by. I had the opportunity to observe some ants the other day and they, God bless their little hearts, reminded me of the importance of living and moving with purpose.
It was a windy, sunny, spring Saturday morning in Jamaica yet while many humans remained in bed, these ants were busy at work. I can only imagine what I would have seemed like to them. Perhaps a giant who had the power to crush them without a care but yet still they moved with purpose.

Their nest was to the east, the wind blew in the opposite direction. Ant after ant moved in every direction in their search for food. Then, despite the strong wind, they struggled home. When the wind became too much, they band together and made it home. They even employed this method when the load found was too heavy for one. They never slowed their pace.

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Be a Mosquito!

I know having read my title, you must be buzzing with curiosity and thinking what a strange command. I would have thought the request strange too, until last week when my sister, brother and I went driving in an area close to the mountains. It was in the evening and nothing would have been strange about it except one thing. The area was populated with mosquitoes!

As we hit the region, my sister started complaining about being bitten. I thought I was safe! At the time, I happened to be wearing a long sleeve top and a long skirt. Imagine my surprise when I felt the mosquitoes biting me in my arm through my blouse! I was so annoyed that I swatted and killed it. Within minutes another took it place! Before the evening was out I had become a professional mosquito killer and a very annoyed young woman.

The next morning, something occurred that made me realise something. I discovered a mosquito in my room. Much to my dismay as I turned off my fan I could hear the annoying bugger flying about. Then he struck! I felt when he landed on my arm and I struck, he flew off and I ended up smacking myself! This occurred thrice and each time I missed! I can just imagine how he laughed as he flew off. On the fourth attempt, he bit me and I was left bested by a mosquito.

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Contemplations at 23

April 16 was my last day as a 23-year old. I’ve been very contemplative as I review the year that I have gone through. The highs, the lows and the in-betweens. As usual, I’ve learnt a few lessons that I want to share.

  1. Laughter and smiles are important: Life will never be fulfilling unless you remember to enjoy it. Laugh until your tummy aches and you are forced to stoop. Smile until your cheeks hurt. Smile, even when you don’t feel like smiling or people think you are crazy. Eventually, it will transform your heart and your day as it becomes genuine.
  2. Whatever you do, have fun: I believe there is some level of fun to be had in whatever we have to do. Sometimes we get caught up with experiencing the dark clouds of things we don’t want to do, that we forget that one silver lining that changes the equation. Life is fun, it’s just a matter of perspective. Find your silver lining and enjoy the hell out of it!
  3. It is okay to cry: I’ve cried many times this year. I’ve cried when I’m ridiculously happy. I’ve laughed until I cried. I’ve cried when I’m sick and feeling really vulnerable and my friends tried to force me to eat. I’ve cried when I’m sad. I’ve cried when the sad part in movies connected with my soul. I’ve cried just because. A few years back, I would have been mortified to admit to crying, but now, pssshhh, crying is healthy. 
  4. Be Kind: Persons may forget your name or even how you look but they will never forget the way you made them feel. Practice being kind in words, thoughts and deeds. You will be memorable for positive reasons.
  5. Your level of faith determines your altitude: Some of us can’t envision beyond what we can see. This is a terrible injustice to you and the world. In year 23, I committed to reading 100 books. I didn’t have the time, I couldn’t even imagine how I would do it but I DID. If you can conceive it, you can achieve it. Dare to dream and reach out and actualize.
  6. Be comfortable exiting your comfort zone: “Great things are on the other side of your fear.” 23 was a great year for me because I did several things that scared the crap out of me but left me feeling exhilarated, once completed. I had a lot of firsts! I did my first radio and television interviews. I wrote my first newspaper article. I gave my first live speech for a cause I care deeply about. I ran my first full-blown project! And the great thing is? I loved it! Great things are not born in comfort zones. If I can step out, you can too. I guarantee that you won’t regret it.
  7. Don’t force it: Anything that is meant to be yours will be. It’s preordained. If the puzzle piece has to be forced into a spot, chances are it is not the correct piece. Don’t force friendships! Don’t force relationships! Don’t try to force destiny! I can assure you that it’s probably one of the few things you will regret doing in life. Let things flow naturally. If that spot belongs to that piece, it will fit!
  8. Be comfortable in your skin: Sweetheart, if you think you are weird, it’s obvious you haven’t met me 😂. I am the woman who walks around fake-shooting and high-fiving people in the office. Though I wonder if I’m the crazy one, because, they actually return my gestures. I talk/sing to myself as I work or study. It took our CEO, who sits beside me, just a week to realize this habit was just one of my super qualities. The point I’m trying to make is: BE YOURSELF. No one will ever do you as well as you do you.

I’ve began declaring into the atmosphere that year 24 will be a great success. I will spread my wings and soar.

I am looking for some creative firsts to try in year 24. Any ideas? Drop me a comment in the area below.

XOXO,
Chañel.

Put Your Heart In It

In July of 2010, this song rang throughout an auditorium filled with youngsters full of dreams as they headed on to 6th form and university.

As 2016 came to a close, the chorus of this song played repeatedly in my head. “When you put your heart in it, it can take you anywhere…” This is the key lesson I learned in 2016. Put your heart in it! That’s the action I bid you to adopt in 2017.

If you want your spiritual life to soar, put your heart in it. If you want your professional and personal life to soar, put your heart in it. Become an honorary Wolmerian and adopt the Wolmers’ Group of Schools “Age Quod Agis” motto. Whatever you choose to do in 2017, do it well. Whatever you set your heart on in 2017, execute well. PUT YOUR HEART IN IT!!! No more halfhearted attempts! When you execute well on the first opportunity, I can assure you that you will live without regrets.

As you step into 2017 with purpose, I wish you all the love, joy, happiness and good things that the Lord has in store for you in 2017. May the favor of God continually smile upon you as you PUT YOUR HEART IN IT!

XOXO,
Chañel.