Emotionally-Unavailable is NOT AVAILABLE

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An encounter with a friend this weekend raised something in my mind. I am confused! Why do females always try to change a male’s mind? This is something that seems to be in females’ make-up, we always believe that we can change a man’s mind! The fact is, this doesn’t always work out so well for us and we are left holding a crap hand of cards.

“If a man tell you that he is not ready for a relationship; believe him the first time.” – Steve Harvey.

Life is too short to waste time trying to change a man’s mind. It is my firm belief that a man shouldn’t need help knowing if he wants you or not. If he tells you that he isn’t ready for a relationship, believe him, no matter his reasoning. I’ve seen cases where the man is still hanged-up over his ex. Do you know what that makes him? It makes him emotionally-unavailable! While I applaud you females for thinking you can make him emotionally-available or change his mind, aren’t you forgetting your value and all your self-worth that you will probably have to sacrifice if you fail?

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Male-Female Friendships

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One of the theories that I’m positively tired of hearing is that females cannot have male friends without either party wanting to “do the tango” with the other. Well that’s a load of bull! I have two male friends who are my wingmen, my protectors, my trustees, my advisors, my psychologists, etc, etc all rolled in one…well two ;).

I trust these guys implicitly. They give superb advice. If I got in trouble, I could call one to come and bail me. If I needed a getaway car, I could call one of my guys and he would come if only to give me a lecture and then help. They have been there through most of my dating mishaps too. Whether to console me, threaten a beating to the unlucky guy, offer emotional support after a “I told you so”, help with homework or participate in my random debates, these guys have been my wingmen for years.

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