Bible in 365 Days – Day 105

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Focus Chapters:

  • 1 Samuel 20-21
  • Psalms 34


Standout Verse(s):

1 Samuel 20: 14-17 NLT

And may you treat me with the faithful love of the Lord as long as I live. But if I die, treat my family with this faithful love, even when the Lord destroys all your enemies from the face of the earth.”

So Jonathan made a solemn pact with David, saying, “May the Lord destroy all your enemies!” And Jonathan made David reaffirm his vow of friendship again, for Jonathan loved David as he loved himself.


Observation (s):

  1. Jonathan and David’s friendship was built on a mutual love that exemplified God’s faithful love to us. Their love extended to each other and each other’s families, in death and life.

    And may you treat me with the faithful love of the Lord as long as I live. But if I die, treat my family with this faithful love, even when the Lord destroys all your enemies from the face of the earth.”

  2. Jonathan wanted the best for David. His dearest wish was for God to destroy all of David’s enemies.

    So Jonathan made a solemn pact with David, saying, “May the Lord destroy all your enemies!”

  3. Jonathan loved David as he loved himself.

    And Jonathan made David reaffirm his vow of friendship again, for Jonathan loved David as he loved himself.



We should aspire to have friendships like David and Jonathan’s. David and Jonathan’s friendship consisted of three things:

  1. A self-love which could then be used as a model to love each other and love each other as how they love themselves.
  2. A love that was demonstrative of God’s faithful love. This was a love that was shown whether they were together or apart; alive or dead. They made a pact to remain friends, while apart, and to love the other’s family, in death.
  3. A desire for the other to prosper, through God’s protection. Jonathan’s fervent prayer was for God to rid David’s of his enemies.

We all want good friendships. However, like David and Jonathan, there is a critical ingredient that we must each have and display. The truth is, if we want to have great friendships, first, we must each be a great friend. Are you a great friend? Do you love your friends in the same way that you love yourself? If your love demonstrative of God’s faithful love or does your friendship only extend to your “friend” while he/she is near? Do you care about your friend’s family? Are you like Jonathan who had a strong desire for his friend to be free of his enemies and prosper? A mediocre friend produces a mediocre friendship. Pull a few pages from David and Jonathan’s book and turn your friendships into meaningful relationships.

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What Letting Go Has Taught Me…

After a long week, I took some time to just reflect on life and where I’ve progressed to since the year began. I realized something about myself. Many of the persons I had started the year with, has disappeared. This made me pause and reflect on how I felt about their disappearance. I realized I was okay.

A few months ago, I wrote a post about keeping persons to your standards. A confession, sometimes I write very good advice but I am generally the last to take it. What do they say about the counsellor? They need the most counseling… For weeks after that post, I would find myself getting annoyed with myself when people walked all over my standards and I kept them around. Frankly I was miserable and I decided to actively do something about it. I must say that once you begin to stand up for yourself, you will be amazed how quickly persons either pulled up their socks or disappeared.

Some of these persons tried to reappear later but I stuck to my mantra and eventually they would leave for good once they realized what I now stood for. I can’t moan about the disappearing acts, frankly, good riddance.

Another thing that changed was that I stopped allowing persons to drag me into their drama. I am a regular Miss-Fix-It. Maybe that is why I make such a good Project Manager… It is simply amazing how much energy it takes to deal with other persons’ drama. What makes it worse is when sometimes, these are the persons who you can never depend on. It made me wonder, what was the use, if these persons were only in your life to drain you. Now, whenever I want to say something or intervene, I beg the Lord to hold my tongue or simply walked away.

My final habit that changed was my “Superwoman mentality”. This on many occasions caused me to burn out and persons often took advantage of my inability to say “no”. I have begun to say “no”. Frankly, it feels good to be able to have time to myself and be able to do the things that I want to do. This meant that a lot of people walked away once they realized I was no longer available to be twisted around their fingers. Frankly, that set leaving was a breath of fresh air.

Friendship, I found, is never about quantity. It’s simply the quality. I would rather have a few good friends who look out for me than an entire army of friends whose actions are a guarantee to my destruction. I prefer to walk into my peace. Don’t you agree? Let me know your thoughts on the subject in the comments area below.


He Will Help You Choose.

I was having a conversation with a friend last night. Somewhere along the way we started discussing times when we have discovered that persons we considered friends were otherwise. My mind replayed the conversation as I sat in bed, reflecting. The Lord brought back to memory something that I had read the previous night during my Bible study. I opened my Bible app and as I reviewed the scripture He gave me a new perspective.

When anyone remember Gideon, we remember the story of the fearful man who, though he doubted, God used along with 300 men to deliver Israel from the Midianities. Many times we overlook the process it took to get to that victory. There was something integral in that process. A choice had to be made.

When it was up to Gideon, he chose the strongest and the greatest of numbers to go to war. Remember, these were men who would be expected to watch his back in the heat of battle. These would have been the ones he expected not to desert him in the midst of a crisis and a tense stand-off. The men Gideon ended up with would need to be ones he thought he could depend on.

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Not everyone is doing IT…


As I was getting ready for work this morning, the Bible story about Elisha complaining to God about him being the only one in Israel who haven’t bowed to Baal came to me. What resounded in my head was God’s reply.

Yet I have left me seven thousand in Israel, all the knees which have not bowed unto Baal, and every mouth which hath not kissed him.
1 Kings 19:18

We live in a world where sometimes it seems like everyone is doing IT and we are the only ones not doing IT. This I admit can be pretty lonesome especially when we begin to feel pressured to do IT. What is the IT you ask? The IT is all the things you know you shouldn’t be doing for various reasons whether they are societal or personal reasons.

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Male-Female Friendships


One of the theories that I’m positively tired of hearing is that females cannot have male friends without either party wanting to “do the tango” with the other. Well that’s a load of bull! I have two male friends who are my wingmen, my protectors, my trustees, my advisors, my psychologists, etc, etc all rolled in one…well two ;).

I trust these guys implicitly. They give superb advice. If I got in trouble, I could call one to come and bail me. If I needed a getaway car, I could call one of my guys and he would come if only to give me a lecture and then help. They have been there through most of my dating mishaps too. Whether to console me, threaten a beating to the unlucky guy, offer emotional support after a “I told you so”, help with homework or participate in my random debates, these guys have been my wingmen for years.

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A Toast to Friendships: To and For My Close Friends

I had a conversation with someone yesterday where I made the comment, “Friendship is earned and never taken for granted.” This got me thinking about the friends I have who have, over time, become the key roots on which I rely heavily on for love and support. I will now show you the best set of friends in the world.

William aka Will aka Willie-Wonka (when I’m being mean)


I am excited to share with you, one of my best friends! William and I are as different as two people could be yet we share so many similarities. Although we generally have differing opinions on almost everything, he always accepts me for who I am and has no qualms about goading me into doing me. He is one of those friends who will do stuff like going shopping with me (I’m a nightmare to go shopping with) when he truly hates it or accompanying me to a wedding he had no business attending, all because I didn’t want to go alone. Will goes over and beyond the call of friendship to help and support me in whatever ways he can. It doesn’t hurts that he gives fabulous, though sometimes condescending, advice as well.

Lavanjah aka Lav

Has there ever been a moment that you thank the Lord for? Well that moment for me was November 2010 when I made a post about becoming a nun and this very annoying young man decided he had to reply. We quarrelled that night but that moment birthed a very precious friendship. Lavanjah (the second best friend) is, in many ways, the wind beneath my wings! He has been a constant through the many seasons that I have gone through. When you find a friend who doesn’t blink or hesitate when you ask to use his credit card, you know you have found a gem. We argue a lot, mainly because we are both very stubborn, but I wouldn’t have him any other way! May I say that it doesn’t hurt that he is a prayer warrior who has this annoying but well-meaning habit of praying guys who are no good for me out of my life.

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Weird First Dates Part 3: I Blew It


So this is the final tale in the Weird First Dates Series. I have been pondering between two occurrences when I came across this photo and it gave the deciding vote because it reminded me of a wonderful friend I once had.

Growing up, there is always that one guy who would go get water from the moon for you even though you can’t seem to drum up a single bit of feeling for him or just don’t notice him and his over-the-moon feelings. In my case, it was the former. The guy was my friend for years but I was too busy mooning over another hunk-of-a-guy, he was friends with, to even notice him. Now hunk-of-a-guy (any guy I’ve liked) had the strange ability to get talkative ole me to either take one of two modes: be totally tongue-tied or go totally outrageously random.

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