When I was in my first year at university, I had a math lecturer who had the tendency to say “This one will separate the men from the boys.” when he gave us a particular complex math question to solve. I took that statement to heart when I realized how appropriate it is for life. Life and its ins and outs is truly the most complex problem that separates the men from the boys.
Generally, as a rule, whenever I learn something new, I try to see how it can apply to my life. Sad to say, I did not take stock and just continued on my merry way.
About a year later, I read Steve Harvey’s Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man and my past lecturer’s words came back to me “This one will separate the men from the boys.” Steve forced me to take stock. Much to my chagrin, I realized that the males I tended to date displayed all the habits and behaviours of my teenaged brother. They were irresponsible, hyped on being “men” yet totally rudderless – had no idea where they wanted to be. It wouldn’t have been so bad except more than half the time, they were older than I was.
I also recognized that my predicaments were partly my fault. I had never placed any value on myself, therefore, no matter how good a person I was, no matter how much I pushed and supported, I was not valued. Casey Brown from TED Talk had been right, “If you don’t define you worth, persons will never pay it to you.” With this, I slowly found myself taking an hiatus from dating.