Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle. – Christian D. Larson
Today I want to talk about one of my most favorite things to do in the whole world… If you said or thought “SMILING” then you are most definitely correct! Whether a full or half smile, I just can’t seem to help myself! I just love to smile and you know what? This inability to stop this ability comes with the most amazing benefits.
- Smiling makes you more approachable People generally avoid strangers but if they need help, they are more likely to approach a person who looks nice and approachable. Studies have found that people are more willing to engage socially with others who are smiling. A smile is an inviting facial expression that tells people you are willing to talk and interact with them.
- Smiling improves your mood I’ve had cases where I started my day badly and even though I don’t feel like it, I put on a smile. You would be amazed at how many persons will respond to a smile and “good morning”. Within the 20 minutes it takes me to get to work, I begin to feel a lot better and my smile becomes totally genuine! This is because endorphins (endorphins are the same chemicals you get from working out or running, resulting in what is known as a runner’s high) released lift your mood.
Recently, while browsing Amazon for free books to add to my Kindle, I came across a couple of book titles by SJ McCoy that perfectly titled some of my philosophies in life. See the list below and the reasons why I believe you should make them your life philosophies as well.
- Love like you have never been hurt. Getting hurt stinks royally, that much I can attest to 100%. What stinks even more is when your inability to forgive the person who hurt you prevents you from getting and giving the love you deserve. Don’t let someone who callously hurt you in the past have a hold in your future because you can’t forgive him/her. The best revenge is to forgive, accept the lessons learnt then go ahead and find someone and love like you have never been hurt!
- Dance like nobody’s watching. I’m sure we have all watched that movie or seen a video where there is just that one guy/girl who is insecure about being themselves but then gets drunk and let loose (Katy Perry’s Last Friday night comes to mind). Don’t need a “MUST GET DRUNK” policy to loosen up. Learn to have fun. Be silly, be you. There is only one you and there certainly will never be another like you so be who you are and not who you think people want you to be.
Nothing boosts your ego like you stepping out of the house feeling that on the SEXY SCALE of 1-10 you rate a 11 for FREAKING HOT! And an added bonus to make your inner goddess don her stiletto boots and do a strut with an extra swing in her hips (borrowing the Ana Steele slang) is when the opposite sex not only notices but acknowledges it. Personally, although I hate the “Psssssstttt” tire-blown sound and won’t openly acknowledge it, sometimes I can’t help producing an inner grin as my inner goddess gives herself a high-five.
Later that night you return home, scrub the makeup off, take down your hair and if you have natural hair like me, you don a satin wrap. Next you kick off the stiletto boots and put on your favourite night-shirt (especially if it’s a hot summer night). Now as your inner goddess curls up on the couch and stretches, you flash a “I know something you don’t” smile and take a selfie. Within an hour, you have garnered over 100 likes.
Two different personas. One person. But they both have something in common. CONFIDENCE. Marcus Garvey is known for saying “If you don’t have confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life.” While he is right and I do power through my general life on this quote, for this post I say “If you ain’t got confidence in self, then your sexy is worth nothing.” Confidence is a vital point in selling the sexy product. It is the fuel needed to drive the car. In essence you have to believe it in order to achieve it.
The year is almost at an end. With only two weeks to go I decided to do a personal SWOT analysis to see how far I’ve come emotionally. I started 2015 on an emotional low and on many occasions I thought I wouldn’t make it but thanks be to God I did.
Now, that is not what I wish to ramble about tonight. After reading Steve Harvey’s Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man earlier in the year, I wanted to see how much of his advice I’d actually practised. In treating others how to treat me, I am happy to report that I GOT ME SOME STANDARDS…
It all comes down to your confidence level, body language and the way you carry yourself. Persons’ attitude and behaviour towards me have changed because of my change in these three areas. I’ve realized that it’s innate in every male but some just need to reminded that it’s his duty to PROTECT when he is escorting a lady. It is not within me to demand it, but I use my body language to show that I expect it. You will be surprised at how quickly men will rise to the occasion!