Speak in Haste, Repent at Leisure

While I am a very laid back individual, I happen to have a temper button that few people know how to hit the right way. Over the last few years, I must admit that I have become a bit complacent as I went through life without coming across anyone who disturbed my gratifying peace.

The last two weeks found me under some immense stress. A lot of things were happening on all levels of my life and I had began short-changing myself in order to get them done. I felt weary and out-of-sorts. This was when the attack came.

Someone made some really snarky comments to me. In the moment, I read, put in the to-be-processed-at-a-later-date queue and went on with my life. That later date came Sunday morning, I re-read and felt annoyed to my core. I tapped out a response in seconds. Now let’s just say, when the old me (the fool) gets mad, her aim is generally to wind the other person up and make them madder by telling then the truth in blunt terms in a condescending manner. The old me (the fool) emerged in scathing form and succeeded beyond her wildest dreams. This verse was proven true in a negative way:

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. – Proverbs 25:11

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Thank You for Being Late

Living in Jamaica can be one of the hardest things for a person who is always on time. Why you may ask? Because, in Jamaica, oftentimes, it is fashionable to be late. Whether a wedding, church service, concert, etc, if the announcement says 7:00pm, the underlying understanding is that it actually begins at 7:30pm, heading to 8:00pm.
For a long time, this mentality really annoyed me as I like being punctual. If I say I will be there at 8, I mean I will be there at 8. The only case where this may differ is if something unexpected happens and even then I will give the persons I am meeting with an headsup.

A few weeks ago, I happened to get a lift to a meeting with the Sales Director of my company. While in the vehicle, we sparked up a discussion about the book he is currently reading. Interestingly enough it was called Thank You for Being Late by Thomas Friedman. The name intrigued me and before I knew it, I found myself urging him to let me hear an excerpt from the book.

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Shame! Shame! Shame!

Have you ever felt rejection? Have you ever been metaphorically slapped in the face by shame over the way someone made you feel? Have you ever been made to squirm in your chair as you listened to someone talk about you in such a condescending manner that grated?

Does anyone come to mind as you read this? How did that rejection make you feel? Small? Unworthy? Unwanted? Unloved? Angry? Embarrassed? Do you still mentally squirm when you remember the moment? Do you still feel angry or upset over the way that person made you feel?

How about you? Have you been loving your neighbor as yourself? Have you ever made someone feel the way you have felt? Have you ever rejected someone? Intentionally? Unintentionally? Maybe taken a person’s love or hero worship and just crush it with a look, a laugh or even a word?

Does anyone come to mind as you read this? Perhaps a person you considered beneath you? A stranger? Someone who had a crush on you? Or maybe Jesus? What about Jesus?

It takes a lot for someone who loves you, to not want to be around you anymore. It takes a lot. A lot of hurt! A lot of rejection! A lot of disrespect! A lot of rejection! It takes a lot for Jesus to reach the point where He will one day say:

Depart from me, I know you not!

Have you rejected Him? Have you rejected others? Shame! Shame! Shame!

It’s a lot of food for thought isn’t it?

XOXO,
Chañel.

“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.” – John Wesley

Lessons Learned From Malcolm Gladwell’s David and Goliath

So guys! On a chance encounter, I learnt about Malcolm Gladwell and how thought-provoking his writing was. I looked him up on TED Talk and sure enough I fell in love. Here are 10 lessons learnt from Malcolm Gladwell’s David and Goliath.

  1. Your acknowledged strength can also be the source of your biggest weakness.
  2. You don’t have to play the same game that everyone else is playing. As a smaller opponent, you are likely to lose. Use the most unexpected strategy.
  3. What is considered an advantage can quickly become a disadvantage.
  4. Making choices should never be the simple case of selecting a best option and a second-best option. It should be a choice between two very different options, each with its own strengths and drawbacks. There are times and places where it is better to be a Big Fish in a Little Pond than a Little Fish in a Big Pond, where the apparent disadvantage of being an outsider in a marginal world turns out not to be a disadvantage at all.
  5. Being born or faced with disadvantages can force you to develop skills that would have otherwise lain dormant.
  6. When you experience what you had first feared, you stop being afraid of being afraid. That’s when the exhilaration kicks in. You have faced fear and won.
  7. It is possible to emerge from the darkest hell healed and restored. 
  8. Forgiveness is as powerful as revenge. It is up to you to decide the kind of impact you want that power to have.
  9. Challenge the status quo. It is not always right and rarely ever break barriers!
  10. The powerful are not as powerful as they seem – nor the weak as weak.

    So tell me, what are your thoughts on lessons highlighted above?

    XOXO
    Chañel.

    Press the DELETE button!

    A few months ago I listened to a message which touched something in my soul. The speaker addressed the issue of decluttering by using the analogy of a phone. Although the owner wanted to add more resources to the device, he couldn’t because, simply put, the memory was full. In order to add more items, the owner had to delete all the junk that had accumulated on the phone over the years of ownership.

    When I heard that message, I realized I was like that phone! My memory was full. Emotionally I had reached my capacity yet persons still demanded more of me. I also realized that there were too many persons around me who were literally sucking my energy and emotions dry.

    Physically I was full! Whenever persons asked me how I was doing, my first reaction was to say “I’m tired!”. Truly I was, because I had never embraced the benefits of saying no and so, although I had reached my capacity, I was still accepting mundane stuff that made me feel overwhelmed. With the feeling of being overwhelmed, came my anger that persons couldn’t see that I had reached my capacity! My tiredness extended on a spiritual level as well. I was always giving yet because of the time it took to give, I had no energy or time to pour in. My Bible reading was rushed! My praying was done on-the-go! My memory had simply overflown. Continue reading

    What is Your Perspective?

    Last night as I laid in bed, I noticed what seemed to be a flying insect on the wall from the corner of my eye. When I looked around, it was gone! A few seconds again I noticed the same phenomenon and looked again. Still nothing. It happened a few more times and each look yielded that same result. Nothing! I got a little worried because I knew I wouldn’t be able to sleep if there was indeed a flying insect in my room.
    I shifted my position and I laid down again. It was then I noticed an ant crawling on the zipper of my bag. I was deeply amused to realized that the angle I had been lying down before had made the ant look like something flying on the wall. The thought came to me then, “It’s all about your perspective.”

    Have you every realized how things and situations can change if you change the way you are looking at it? When you are in the sky looking down, everything seems small, yet when you are on land, things just seem bigger. When you are in the middle of the situation, you get caught up in the management of the details. However, when you take a step back and experience the bird’s eye view, your perspective can change.

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